Dependent on Wine?
Dependent on Wine? A justification or valid reason.
By Valerie Grimes, CHt
Clinical Hypnotist
Women drink wine for a lot of reasons other than it is the social thing to do with the girls. For instance, it goes so well with chocolate, it’s the norm during dinner, it’s how they relax or create a sense of ease in social situations. However these are not reasons, they are justifications.
What are some of the real reasons?
It’s not very romantic but from my experience most woman drink in order to not feel the way they really do. Some of the women I have helped to control their dependency on wine or alcohol reported feeling of one or more of these emotions most of the time:
Agitated
Angry
Anxious
Bored
Confused/Conflicted
Fearful
Inadequate
Unloved
Uptight
Worthless
They can try and justify having that 2nd or 3rd glass of wine at dinner because the flavor brings out the taste of the food or admit that the real reason is it helps them to forget they are feeling inadequate for example.
However, it is important to note they don’t know the real reason consciously. Just like any habit, the daily drinking becomes a habit and the real reason is elusive.
As a hypnotist, I assist people in getting to the true reason for the behaviors they want to change. Recently a woman in her 50s, whom I’ll call Ann– was moving from the home she raised her now ‘college bound’ kids in –wanted to address the additional 15 pounds she again. During our conservation she realized the added weight was the wine that she consumed daily. I agreed.
Here is my evaluation: “Ann was using alcohol to avoid boredom and numb herself to the lack of purpose she currently as feeling.”
Many women identify with their kids, their home, their husbands or partners but rarely themselves. And in one week this woman was loosing all of those identifications (well not her husband).
It is common for women (and men) to find them selves at the end of that 18-year kid-rearing career with no idea of the next challenge. Having a challenge gets us up the morning and not having one gives us a hangover in the morning from all the alcohol consumed in an attempt to forget.
Hypnosis for Alcohol Dependency: How it Works.
In our sessions we connected with the idea of what life might be like moving ahead without the current thoughts and feelings and behaviors. And in doing so created hope by planting that seed of desire for a better life.
In other sessions we released resentment, created a way to stay upbeat in negative situations (which were a trigger for drinking), discovered the courage to move towards a new purpose in life. At the fourth session she reported she was not drinking daily and felt in control of her decision to drink or not. Future sessions will continue to support her ability to be in control of alcohol.
Many people are prevented from having a happy, satisfying life because of counter productive habits and self-defeating beliefs. Hypnosis is a form of cooperative therapy that targets specific behaviors. Hypnosis provides clarity to clients who may not understand their inability to change or improve situations in their lives lies within and that, through the guidance of a certified hypnotist, they have the ability to transform their situations. The services are not represented as any form of health care or psychotherapy and, despite research to the contrary and by law, it makes no health benefit claims for any services.
About Valerie Grimes
Valerie is a recognized master at helping people overcome their negative belief systems, false opinions, and self-defeating habits that reside in their subconscious mind. Those blocks consistently sabotage people’s relationships, health, and success in business.
She combines centuries-old hypnotic practices with modern day neuroscience as an effective means of helping clients reach their full potential.
A 2002 graduate of the Dallas Hypnosis Training Institute, Valerie combines her skills in hypnosis with her own difficult life experiences and an understanding of human behavior gained through working with a wide variety of clients with diverse backgrounds. She is the author of Licking Honey of a Razor Blade a personal story about her alcohol dependence and how she regained control.